blue_lotus13: (littleprince)
Two nights ago, I was approached at the bookstore by a woman who wanted to find a book for her 10-year-old son. I asked the typical questions, "What does he like to read?" "What is he into?" "What kind of things does he like?"

The woman then listed me a bunch of computer games that her son plays and I was unfamiliar with most of them. Finally, she was able to tell me that he enjoyed reading "Captain Underpants" and I was able to make some suggestions based on this.

Boys are not reading. This is becoming more and more of an issue at the bookstore. People are constantly asking me what I can recommend for boys, and fortunately, there have been several books created for "reluctant readers", targetted for kids who don't like to read, or who read below their level. There are a lot of books written for girls to help them do well in school, and deal with friends and body image and such. By contrast, I have seen very little written for boys.

It's not just that boys are not reading. I know that literacy has probably decreased in young women as well. As someone who grew up in a household governed by two social workers who worked with youth, I've always had an interest in child and youth culture, as anyone who reads this blog has probably noticed. I also have a lot of friends who are educators or who write novels for young adults. While employed as a General Assignment Reporter at The Wainwright Review, I covered the educational beats as well as youth issues. And what it boils to is that young women are now kicking the asses of young men. They are doing better in school, and have better communication skills and confidence. They are effectively surpassing boys in most areas. A lot of university programs (not all) have high numbers of female applicants and students.

I'm not saying that female achievement is bad. I'm very happy with it. But it does make me concerned for future generations. If communication skills continue to decrease among men, who still hold a lot of the positions in power, what does this mean for the women and children of the future? How is the world going to shift? You can say that people will rely even more on technology, but I don't personally believe that technology will be able to override effective communication skills. I also know that many parents who value literacy and social skills will continue to educate their sons in these areas and pass these valuable skills on.

Will the young boys who are literate, articulate and intelligent become future leaders? Will women take roles of power? Will we be able to make this happen? How will society be affected?

(I think I need to go eat something, so I hope this makes sense. I might edit this later.)
blue_lotus13: (charlotte)
Sometimes I feel like I am a shitty friend. My time is very scattered and I don't see a lot of people. I tend to work evenings and weekends, which is when most people are doing fun things. It's best for me to make plans weeks in advances. Plus when I do have free time and B* has free time, I tend to hang out with him.

I just got a call from Raincoast and I will be going to part-time hours there starting in October. I will start out at 8 hours a week and gradually increase until the holidays.

Now I have the potential of 4 jobs, some casual, some part-time-

1. Chapters
2. Raincoast
3. Ricepaper
4. Secret job that is 100% legal, but not 100% decided yet. I will discuss it when it begins. It's one night a week, and I would do it for free but they want to pay me. It's super exciting.

That's five jobs, if freelancing is included.

I'm taking two classes-
1. Belly dancing
2. A marketing class at Langara, delivered online

I'm volunteering with the Colouring Book, the Film festival and the Writers Festival.

I'm nuts.
blue_lotus13: (littleprince)
B* and I are going to a gay wedding in September, and I decided to go on a little hunt for a card today. B* suggested that I get a non-gendered card, but I was quite curious to see what sort of cards were available for same-sex weddings. On Monday, I explored the shops on the Drive, and only found cards at one shop. Unfortunately, these cards were mostly for lesbian couples.

Today, I ventured over to Davie Street where I was disappointed with the selection at Little Sisters. Once again, they had a few cards, but mostly for women. There were actually more cards for heterosexual couples that gay ones in the store as well as a big Pride flag card that said, "Love" on it.

Another store on Denman had the same cards, but a bigger selection of them. I realized that all the same sex cards were made by Raindrop cards , a locally based company. The cards are handmade, and have quilling on them. They're really pretty, but each card costs $10, which is more than I usually spend. One of the cards reads, "For the brides" and another "For the grooms." Do same sex couples really want to be known as brides or grooms? I felt a bit baffled by this assumption.

Another card read, "For the Newlyweds, Justly married," which seemed a bit too political for me. I realize that it's an important act, but I think it's more important to focus on the actual wedding and commitment and the people themselves during that day instead of politicians.

At the Vancouver Public Library gift shop, where I buy a lot of my cards, I saw a card with two suits which read, "You suit each other perfectly, Congratulations." It's not a bad idea, but that card is so cheesy that I need crackers to go with it.

Part of the problem is that in general, I find wedding cards really cheesy or saccharineThey're usually somewhat stereotypical, focus on the bride, and not on the couple's relationship, which is what the wedding should be about.

I didn't buy a card today, but I might shell out the money to support Raindrop cards since they seem to be the only people in the area catering to the gay market. To be honest, I was a bit surprised by this. Gay marriage has been legal in British Columbia for over 2 years now, and there is a large gay population. I know that the number of gays and lesbians who choose to get married is not that high, but I was still surprised by the lack of cards.

Therefore, take note. If you or anyone you know makes cards, there's a niche market that is not being tapped right now.

(For the sake of interest, I also looked up gay wedding cards online and also found some gay wedding cards online at Two grooms and possibly at Gaymart
blue_lotus13: (frida)
Every time I go to get waxed, I think about writing a post about waxing. It's finally time to do it.
Let's go to the background. My mother is nearly hairless. I blame this on good genes and her ethnic makeup, as people of Asian descent tend to have very little body hair. My father, on the other hand, is mostly French German with a fair amount of body hair. The genetic mixture of them has resulted in yours truly, a rather hirsute person with dark skin and dark hair. As a child, I was teased about my hairy arms, and even refused to wear short sleeves for many years. In high school, I even shaved my stomach and my arms in an attempt to become less hairy. I don't do any of these things now, but I'm still a little self conscious.

At the age of 13, I had my first brow wax and I've been a practitioner ever since. It's embarassing to think about how many thousands of dollars have gone into taming my unruly brows. I was so terrified during my first wax that I nearly cried. Now, I almost fall asleep while they're doing it.

I have had many strange things happen to me while being waxed. At one salon, they ripped my skin which gave me bizarre slash marks above my eyes. Another time, the wax became too sticky and the poor esthetician had to practically scrape a piece of wax off the inside of my leg when it became stuck. This was a pretty humiliating experience, but I think it was worse for my waxer.

While I lived in Montreal, I had my first "too close" bikini wax. This was when the Brazilian was just catching on. Suffice it to say that I got the airplane runway, instead of the neat triangle. I've never had a Brazilian and plan never to have one as several people I know tell me that it is extremely painful.

In Indonesia, I attended a wonderful "all woman spa". Due to Muslim custom, men were not even allowed in the spa. Rooms were divided by bamboo and everyone got to walk around in beautiful batik sarongs. It is there that I experienced threading, which is one of the most painful procedures I have ever encountered. It felt like they were scraping hair from my eyebrows with a knife. I thought I was going to die. Never again. In this salon, I also had to fight not to have a Brazilian, which was difficult with my limited skills in Indonesian and the esthetician's limited English skills.

In Mongolia, I could not find anywhere that did eyebrow waxing. Instead, the brow was tamed with a little razor. At one place, a woman tried to buzz the sides of my hairline with this little razor and I had to practically fight her off.

Oh, the pains of beauty. Sometimes I wish I could just give up and do the Frida Kahlo, but I can't handle it. I can't even stop shaving my legs or pits. I've accepted that this is part of my routine and self pampering, and part of who I am.
blue_lotus13: (Default)
Forgot to mention that last night's dream involved me sitting by the side of a stage, watching Metallica. I was a decent Metallica fan, but not a huge one. However, as a former guitarist, I must say that Kirk Hammett is a good one. He's classically trained musician and it shows. I also love James Hetfield's voice. If I was a man, I'd love to be able to growl like him.

I really miss playing guitar, but the constant rashes and eczema on my fingers makes it difficult. Perhaps I will start practicing with a pick again, which would at least spare my right hand.
blue_lotus13: (Default)
Oh, my god. SOOOOO tired.

Anyway, I came up with the best idea for a business at work yesterday. It's a repossession service for scorned lovers. Once you break up, you contact my agency and then we send people to collect things from both parties in the break up. People would make a list of things that they had lost in their breakup and then my little agents would collect them and return them to their rightful owners. It would spare any of the awkward meetings, planned phone calls, and tearful reunions*, and everyone could get their stuff back. Sound great?

My name for the business was "Gimme my money back, you bitch", but I'm open to other suggestions for names.




*not based on actual events in my life.
blue_lotus13: (buddha)
Don't click unless you've read Book 6 )

I've been really thinking about my connection to Buddhism lately. I feel very alienated from it, and I don't like that feeling. I haven't been practicing for a while, and haven't been working on exploring the path lately. I guess I've fallen off the path in a lot of ways.
In the past few months, I realize that I am having trouble balancing various parts of my life. I don't feel like I've been a very good activist. I want to be more involved in things and in good, solid conscious efforts. After reading "Grassroots", a guide to feminist activism, I felt a bit better about how I act as an activist through my daily activities. But I still feel like I'm not as involved as I could be.

My feelings about myself as a Buddhist and my sense of loss of my spiritual practice have been triggered by a variety of things-
1. Meeting and interacting with Ruth Ozeki, who I related to on so many levels. She is a Buddhist, and I realize that I feel like I'm missing that part of myself in my life.
2. Watching the movie "Samsara", which reminded me of how much I enjoy learning about Buddhism and deepening my own understanding
3. Reading "Dharma Punx" by Noah Levine. I'm loving this book so much. I intend to post a lot more about it later. I'd seen it a few times in the book store. Noah recently came here for a reading. The reading was co-sponsored by Pulp Fiction (one of my favourite bookstores) and the Radha Yoga Centre, which I'm also connected to. I was curious about the reading, but neglected to go. Instead, I just picked up the book. Now I really wish that I'd gone to see him read. Oh well, life is 20-20, right.
4. Realizing that I really miss travelling. In all honesty, I actually really miss Mongolia. I felt very alive when I was there and everything was so intense. I love living in Vancouver and I'm learning and growing a lot here. But I know that I need to go back overseas at some. I need to go back to Asia. At some point, I'm probably going to live there again, and I want to spend some time in Mongolia. Specifically, I need to write about that country. So little has been written, and there is so much there....



Yesterday, I took a different bus home from Raincoast, and ended up passing The Tilopa Buddhist centre. I immediately hopped off the bus, and tried to stick my nose in the door. It was closed, but I intend to go back at a later date.
blue_lotus13: (buddha)
I just realized this today- I'm very afraid of becoming someone who just takes in other people's art, without ever creating any of my own.
blue_lotus13: (frida)
Friday, I went downtown early to run a few errands and check out the First Nations celebration behind the Vancouver Art gallery. I think it's really great that this event was downtown, as it attracted a lot of passerby who may have never seen any aboriginal culture before. I went and looked at the booths, watched some dancing and ate some bannock.

After work, I went to [livejournal.com profile] trec_lit's farewell/ friend's party. I had a good time visiting, and finally met [Bad username or site: @ livejournal.com]'s friend Aaron and his bf Shaun, who were quite lovely.

Today, my roommate's dude made us pancakes with raspberries and blueberries in them. I wandered around the Drive to check out the first Commercial Drive festival. It was a happening place, with lots of cool exhibits and vendors. I was impressed by the people powered music exhibit. People were biking, and powering speakers which hooked up to a dj turntable. It was pretty cool.

In other news, I realized that I am getting a lot shyer, and I don't like it. I'm not sure why this is. I don't know if it's because I spent a lot of time alone, or what. I've also had a lot of friends move away since I moved here. So far [Bad username or site: @ livejournal.com], [Bad username or site: @ livejournal.com], [Bad username or site: @ livejournal.com] and my friend Mike have all gone overseas or moved away. In truth, [Bad username or site: @ livejournal.com] is still within visiting distance, and the other three will all return from overseas at some point. Still, that's a lot of leaving. I guess what goes around comes around, as I used to be the one who was always moving and leaving.

On the other hand, [Bad username or site: @ livejournal.com] and [Bad username or site: @ livejournal.com] will soon be here!

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